Patricia Hamilton is a crackerjack coupon clipper and a champion loonie squeezer, but feels like a dud when it comes to saving.
"I would like to just be able to wake up one day and not worry about paying off this or that," she said. "I was never taught to save. If I made $8 delivering papers as a kid, I spent that $8 -- no one ever suggested I should save $4."
But she was frugal: Four years ago when she was still feeding herself and her two teenagers, she spent $100 a month on groceries.
Yes, one hundred dollars a month.
Now, with just her and her 22-year-old daughter, Jen, at home, she often spends even less.
She has single-handedly raised her children since her marriage ended 23 years ago in Calgary, and she flew home to Hamilton.
She arrived with a four-month-old, a toddler, three boxes, a dresser and a dog -- and determination to raise her kids.
As she said in her submission to The Way We Spend, she's been in debt since.
She was on social assistance for a brief time, but found work as soon as she could.
After a five-year court battle, her ex-husband, who stayed in Alberta, paid child support for one year -- $2,400 -- and that was it.
She didn't have it in her for another fight. Now 52, she's got nothing saved but for $3,600 she scrimped and scrounged in the past few years for a RRSP.
She also has a $41,000 locked-in retirement savings account (LIRA) from a previous employer that is invested in a GIC earning 4 per cent, not maturing until 2013.
She's dreading retirement, and wonders if it's even possible.
She worries about her two adult children, Chris, 25, and Jen, and what her inability to teach them to save will mean for their futures.
"I want them to learn from my mistakes," she said.
There's a good chance they will.
Jen is also consulting with financial expert Marta Stiteler, a certified financial planner, who is paired with her mom on The Way We Spend.
Chris has opted out of the financial makeover, but supports his mom and sister in their journey.
Jen works in a discount retail store and recently had her hours cut. She grosses about $20,000 a year.
She had moved out for a while, but moved back in with her mom two years ago. They split the rent and utility bills.
Jen is in the process of moving out to live with her boyfriend, so Chris is moving back in.
"I've always lived in this area. My friends are still here. I'll save some money," he said.
More importantly, his mom will also save, and she won't have to leave her cosy Mountain apartment with Chris sharing the rent.
One moving out, the other moving in, but no matter what, they all get together Sunday nights for dinner.
They've always been there for each other, even in the toughest of times.
Patricia remembers the hard winter months when the heating bills ate up too much of her grocery money to leave her food for lunch.
"I always made sure the kids were fed," she said.
But then, during an interview, Chris revealed that once he started working at 15, he would quietly buy groceries, and eat before his mom and sister got home so that they didn't have to feed him as much.
"I was playing football six hours a day," he said. "I really got into cooking. Now cooking is a passion, I have a whole nutritional program worked out."
Even on such a tight budget, Patricia and the kids have always eaten well. Canned food is rare -- everything is fresh and as local as possible. No packaged, processed food -- too expensive and not good for you. Everything's homemade, from slow cooker to barbecue.
Turning off the lights and the computer when not needed, bartering banana bread for services from friends -- Patricia is a first-class innovator when it comes to living on a low income.
She managed to volunteer for Girl Guides, send Jen to dance lessons, Chris to football and hold down a full-time job.
Most of it was alone, but not entirely -- her family is there for her too, as much as possible.
Before they meet, Stiteler asks to see Patricia's monthly expenses.
It's tight.
Patricia needs about $900 a month for basic living costs. Her job as an administrative assistant gives her a net income of about $1,850 a month -- leaving about $950 for expenses such as car maintenance, debt repayment and savings.
One bill is a $200 payment each month to fend off the $3,143 credit-card debt Patricia has acquired. She also pays about $40 a month minimum payment on a line of credit.
Trying to stay on top of those has resulted in falling behind on cellphone and cable bills.
"I know $3,000 doesn't sound like a lot, but it might as well be $30,000 for how impossible it seems to me to pay off," she said.
One of her worst debts is $600 she owes her dad. "He gave it to me years ago to help me get out of a rat-infested house with the kids. I've told him I'll pay him back. It weighs on my mind."
Patricia has modest goals: pay off the credit card, line of credit and that money to her dad.
Then she'd like to save more and retire at 65 on what she's making now, about $33,000 gross (about $22,000 net).

Financial planner Marta Stiteler and Patricia Hamilton: falling behind.
Stiteler said the first goal is to get out of debt.
"Patricia should consider redeeming her available RRSP from the credit union and pay off her high-interest credit card, as it is highly unlikely that the RRSP will earn at least 19.8 per cent each year -- the rate charged on the credit card," she said.
"The government will withhold 10 per cent tax, which will be applied to 2009 tax (calendar) year."
Stiteler said the difference of around $300 (for cashing in the RRSP) will either have to be paid at tax time, or be minimized or even eliminated through planned RRSP contributions before the March 1, 2010 deadline.
"Taking this RRSP money will not push her income into the next combined tax bracket."
Stiteler recommends Patricia take the $80 a month she was diverting into RRSPs and pay off the line of credit.
As for the credit card, it's time to shop around. It's too pricey.
The second goal is to plan for retirement. That has to wait until their next meeting.
Patricia's excited to have some direction."I came out of there (meeting with Stiteler) feeling so good because I had a plan."
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